Five Sources

Twisted VoyagerWe’ve been reading up on Supreme Court cases involving “student rights” in one of my classes. Most of the readings and videos have involved the biggies – student speech, mostly, and some search and seizure. I recently asked them to pick a topic related to student rights in school, and of course offered a list of possibilities for those not particularly motivated to come up with their own. 

We’re not looking to do a serious research paper at this level. Mostly, I want us to go through the motions of gathering information, understanding the issues, and recognizing the difference between an informational or expository text (“here’s the current law about X, plus examples”) and a persuasive or rhetorical text (“here’s what the law or policy should be, and here’s why”).

The first day was all groundwork – some videos summarizing various cases and a little discussion about possible topics. Day two was intended to be straightforward, but essential. Students needed to come up with FIVE SOURCES they were going to use for information about their topic. Books or periodicals would be fine, but realistically I knew we were talking websites. I briefly addressed “valid” vs. “invalid” sources, but for something like this I wasn’t overly picky. 

Honestly, there are SO many “student rights” sites out there, so many news stories citing various court cases and issues, so many legal advocacy sites with sections about students and education, it should be difficult NOT to find valid sources of information at the level I’m looking for. I figured most would be done in 15-20 minutes. I asked them to email me their five links or share a Google Doc (for easier follow-up on their part) and we’d discuss their topic and sources before they move on. 

We’re not doing a doctoral thesis here; we’re trying to learn whether or not dress codes are sexist or when principals can search your backpack. I was only taking it slow because this foundational step was so important. 

Sources, Shmorces…

By the next day, I only had a handful of completions. By itself that wasn’t so shocking; my students aren’t always a particularly self-motivated group. But I’d watched them working, and writing. I’d overheard what sounded like productive, on-topic discussions. I knew the product I was asking for was NOT all that demanding, and yet…? 

I started taking a closer look at all the activity I thought I’d observed. 

Several were overdoing it – summarizing entire web pages or the issues covered on each. That’s a good problem to have; obviously, they need to eventually read the information in their sources. Most, however, had simply started writing about their topic – what they thought, why this or that policy was unjust, ect. They were on fire! Except… they weren’t doing the assignment. 

“Looks like you have a lot to say. That’s good. But… where are your five sources?”

“My what?”

Now, this is something many educators will immediately recognize. You can explain something quite explicitly while the same instructions are projected on the screen behind you and in large font on the paper in front of them. You can restate those same directions in multiple ways, give examples, and make sure they know how to refer back to them if necessary. Ten minutes after you turn them loose to work, a third of them haven’t started because they have no idea what they’re supposed to do. Of those, several are already mad that you never explain anything. 

It’s not personal. You get used to it. 

But this wasn’t silent confusion. These kids were writing! Several were quite emotional. Most responded with annoyance and confusion when I tried to steer them back to those FIVE SOURCES. Save what you’ve written! You might decide to use it. But first, we need to know stuff. What does the Constitution SAY? What have the courts already DECIDED? We can agree with it or disagree, advocate or accept, but we must start with existing KNOWLEDGE on which to build our opinions!

Their bewilderment and frustration were palpable. BUT I ALREADY KNOW WHAT I WANT TO SAY! Yes, I see that – and I want for you to be able to say it. I’m just asking that these strong opinions of yours begin with some facts and information. 

Eventually, I thought they’d heard me. Maybe I hadn’t explained it as well as I thought the first day. They mutter what passes for agreement. I walk on. 

And you know what comes next. 

Ground Fog Day

Day Three. We should be outlining by now. Discussing topic sentences and supporting details. Instead, I’m walking around the room trying to figure out why we’re still not turning in those FIVE SOURCES. One pair (I finally caved on letting them work together) has given me a list of homepages – forbes.com, vox.com, etc. I try to explain that I need the actual URLs of the specific articles, which prompts them to sulk and refuse to do anymore that day. Another gives me a handwritten list of very long URLs, which I suppose technically meets the requirements, but WHO DOES THAT AND WHY?!?!

Mostly, however, it’s a brand new start in all the worst ways. What are we doing again? So we have to do research papers? Can I use the essay on Vikings I did for World History first semester? Again I’m left referring back to the same very basic instructions… and insisting they need FIVE SOURCES. Sources? For what? How many? Five?! So any five websites about anything? Mister, you’re not explaining this very well. 

Most are genuinely stuck. Bewildered. Stymied. Buffy and Willow and Xander, wrestling with Spike’s assertion that Ben IS Glory and Glory IS Ben. There’s simply too much dark magic in play to allow their brains to grasp – let alone retain – such madness. FIVE SOURCES? Related to a student right of our choice? So what are those posted directions and samples for? What are we doing again? 

Lost Connections

Most educators know how bewildering kids can be. We love them anyway, and it’s not usually the same from day to day or from student to student. In this particular case, however, I’m convinced that the sticking point was more than usual teenage cluelessness. I think it’s the nature of the requirement triggering the crisis. I might as well have asked them to recalibrate their heartbeats to produce more of a polka rhythm, or required them to eat only color and write with one-dimensional fruit. Starting today, work will only be accepted in Morse Code. Grades are determined by the square root of your age as a negative number divided by zero. And informational writing must be supported by FIVE SOURCES. 

Information. Existing facts. Building our arguments on knowledge and reason. Assume a common foundation of documented truth and empirical understanding. Know stuff FIRST. Then feel. Then rant. Then insist, explain, or decry. 

That’s just not how we do things anymore, is it? They’re high school freshmen – I’m not mad at any of them or despondent over the process. Every lesson has its unexpected wrinkles, and they’re not always the same from year to year or class to class. But I don’t think they’re alone in their bewilderment. If one of our goals in public education is to prepare students for the “real world,” I’m not even sure that insisting on facts and reality as the foundation of their informational or persuasive writing is doing them any favors. Facts and reality don’t seem to carry much weight these days. They get in the way of too many emotions, agendas, and belief systems. 

Why Ruin It With Reality?

We’ve watched over the years as our primary social and political arguments have shifted from disagreements over methodology (“Which approach is most likely to accomplish the goals we largely share?”) to tribal warfare over basic reality (“Did Trump lose the election due to fraud? Is violent overthrow of democracy a valid form of peaceful political protest? ARE BIRDS EVEN REAL?”) Reaching across the aisle has become more and more like a mid-season Star Trek episode; someone always ends up in a different time-space continuum. Emotions are strong, and tied firmly to belief, and religion, and tribal associations, and convictions regarding values and one’s own sense of self. What they don’t seem overly concerned with is objective reality. 

My kids will eventually give me those FIVE SOURCES, but at the moment they’re products of the times in which they live. It’s legitimately difficult for them to fathom the idea that their opinions and emotions should at least take facts, history, and reality into account. It’s not just that they don’t want to do it – they can’t easily get their heads around why anyone would expect such a thing. My instructions are inconvenient and irrational – the bizarre babblings of a madman. “FIVE SOURCES,” he says. Honestly, he won’t shut up about it. Cleary he doesn’t understand – I ALREADY HAVE STRONG FEELINGS ABOUT THIS. Why would we slow all that down, complicate my position with these… these… what did you call them again? “Facts”? 

I realize it’s old school. Outdated. Perhaps even detrimental to their future success. But we’re going to get those FIVE SOURCES before moving forward if it takes all month and nearly kills us all. I can’t do anything about the rest of the country, but for now… THIS group is going to at least START with facts and reality. Where they go next is entirely up to them.

I’m Trying Not To Take Sides

Aliens PyramidsThese are complicated times, and in the interest of serving ALL students (and avoiding as many problems with parents as possible), I’m renewing my commitment to avoid pushing my own personal values and ideology and just sticking to the facts.

It’s not that hard in early American history. I mean, sure – there’s the issue of Columbus and whether he “discovered” America or not. Rather than give my own opinions, I just give kids facts. I’ve prepared a sheet of links to over 200 scholarly sources and primary documentation for them to peruse at their leisure, and they can decide for themselves whether or not what Columbus did was “good” or “bad,” or whether the Vikings got here first, or the Chinese, or that guy from Africa whose name I can never remember.

The whole clash of early settlers and the natives can be a little tricky, but no worries – I just present all sides of the issues and let my 8th and 9th graders figure out what it all means. It’s not my job to label something as “genocide” or “natural progress” or “God’s will.” Maybe smallpox blankets were a tacky move, maybe not. Maybe scalping and raping and burning down homes and bashing out babies’ brains was savage, maybe not. There were good people on both sides.

I’ve compiled some sketches from the impacted tribes along with a few scraps of sympathetic white accounts, some primary sources from European colonists, and deleted scenes from the Director’s Cut of Pocahontas. (I realize some would argue the Disney movie isn’t an accurate portrayal of history, but as I’ve already explained, I’m trying not to take sides.)

Abe A BabeYoung people are naturally interested in the Salem Witchcraft Trials. It’s a topic that’s become so sensationalized in our culture that it’s used as an analogy for everything from the anti-Communist hysteria of the mid-20th century to any effort to hold elected leaders accountable for poor behavior. You think I’m wading into THAT minefield when we cover it in class? No way!

Instead, I’ve got the trial transcripts in the King James English, some commentary from Cotton Mather, and Samuel Sewell’s apology years after. Were the condemned actually witches? Not my call to make! Should we burn people at the stake for acting strange or based on the testimony of teenagers faking seizures? Maybe. Maybe not. I’m suggesting students read the transcripts and consult the dozens of scholarly analyses available to decide what really happened on their own. I’m trying not to take sides.

The American Revolution! Independence! Freedom! Yeah, also not going there. We’ll cover the documents and discuss some of the main events happening around that time, but I’m not sure it’s a good idea for me inflict my own perception of what “caused” the Revolution, let alone whether or not the rebels made the right call. Better I just share some random facts for them to connect (or not) on their own and leave my personal patriotism out of it.

Maybe America was something new and special, maybe it wasn’t. Maybe the Declaration of Independence is the finest document ever written, maybe it’s not. Maybe the Bill of Rights turned out to be a pretty good idea, and maybe it’s all crap we can ignore when inconvenient. I love those documents, those ideals, and even how beautifully they were phrased – but… I’m paid by tax dollars. Not here to brainwash. Stick to the facts.

Hillary Sex PizzaSo I’m not pushing my patriotism on kids any more than I’d try to convert them to my faith or expect them to conform to my own narrow ideas about civility and human decency. It’s not my place to tell them what to believe, just to provide un-curated information related to state standards and stand back. They may then peruse mankind’s collected writings at their convenience and decide for themselves whether or not representation should or should not be considered a prerequisite for taxation. I’m trying not to take sides.

Indian Removal, slavery, the Age of Jackson, the Civil War, Westward Expansion, War with Mexico, Imperialism – I refuse to get sucked in to ethical, philosophical, or religious discussions about “right” and “wrong.” It’s not my place to refute the idea that the moon landing was faked, that the earth is flat, or that immunizations cause autism.

It’s entirely possible science isn’t even a thing that happens. Perhaps it’s a massive worldwide conspiracy run by antifa agents and Bill Gates to support their child sex slavery pizza parlors and brainwash our children into becoming gay Muslims. Personally, I suspect science is a real thing but gets stuff wrong sometimes and not all scientists are as objective as we’d like. But I’m not committing either way on any of these hot-button issues. That’s not my place. I’m trying not to take sides.

I remember a young man asking me last year whether or not it was true that Africans had evolved in such a way as to be “well-suited” for slavery – that they had the “mark of Cain” and God had set them aside to serve whites and play basketball and that’s why they were so good at both. I was personally horrified, of course, but race is a loaded issue and, as I’ve been reminded repeatedly over the years, it’s not my place to inject my personal opinions in class. For a moment, I wasn’t sure how I’d be able to maintain my professional distancing as I’ve been so often berated to do.

Obama Tan SuitI asked him to give me a day to consider what he’d asked. That evening, I compiled the writings of Frederick Douglass, James Baldwin, and nearly a hundred other black intellectuals in American history, along with the speeches of famous southerners, Klan leaders, and transcripts from several Mel Gibson films. I also provided links to some of the more violent white supremacy websites along with a suggestion he Google #BlackLivesMatter. If he really cares about the issue, he can spend the next several decades pouring over the studies, experiences, opinions, and diatribes of those on all sides of the issue. It’s really not my place to take a position on the “humanity” or “equality” of this group or that – especially when it might offend certain stakeholders in the community. 

Students complain that other history teachers “tell them stories” about events in history or talk about famous historical figures. I’m like, woah! Spoon-fed, much? Telling stories is just a euphemism for “putting your own spin” on historical events, not to mention it requires deciding which events are important enough to discuss in the first place. That sounds like a job for your pastor, parents, or local politicians to decide.

Talking about “famous” figures is even worse. Some people consider Thomas Jefferson a Founding Father and an icon of American History. Others believe he’s a monster for his relationship with Sally Hemmings (one of his slaves). One side treasures his words and ideals, the other condemns his hypocrisy. You think I’m going to so much as MENTION him when literal blood is being spilt over whether or not to tear down his statue? The last thing we want to do is connect anything in the news with something from history – the mere suggestion that we can potentially shed light on current events by considering comparable events in our past can quickly become both a very unpleasant local news story and a fireable offense. This is “history” class, kids – not “people alive today” class. Look it up.

Seriously. Look it up. Alone on your own time and without any guidance. It’s not my job to help you sift through the overwhelming volume of noise and nonsense out there and decide which parts form a common national narrative. I’m just here to teach you the facts. You’re 15 – work out the rest on your own.

Bill Gates 5G CoronavirusWas John Brown right to decapitate those settlers in front of their wives and kids? Not my call. Should women have the right to vote? Hard to say – there are good arguments on both sides. How well did Communism actually work out in the Soviet Union? Gosh, I dunno… there are all sorts of reasons they may have decided to move away from the “U.S.S.R.” thing and tear down that wall. Who am I to say? Did “executive privilege” place President Nixon above the law? Maybe – have to ask your parents about that one, not really an appropriate question for American Government class.

Was it necessary to execute all those Jews to save Germany? Maybe – I mean, I have some opinions on the subject along with research by experts who’ve spent lifetimes studying such things and exploring how such evils occur and why we don’t do more to speak out against them. But, I mean… there was a reason they threw the intellectuals in there with the homosexuals and the Gypsies, so maybe it’s best I avoid taking sides.

As it turns out, even my last recourse of “facts only” education presents a political and social dilemma. Honestly, I thought tossing my kids unguided into a forest filled with yellow ribbons was about as fair and balanced as any educated person could be expected to attempt. My narrow-minded ideology, however, that some things in history are supported by “evidence” while others simply aren’t (even while acknowledging that many topics fall somewhere in between) is apparently just as hurtful as when I suggested that websites ending in .edu or .gov might be slightly more reliable than Bubba’sConfederateBasement.com with all of its misspellings and that bright red twinkling background with the synthesized version of “Dixie” playing far too loudly.

I’ll do better. From now on, we won’t just cover facts. We’ll give equal time and merit to anything anyone anywhere has ever made up, tweeted, posted on Facebook, ranted about at a family dinner, or wormed their way onto TV (or YouTube) to talk about. Out of “respect for the office,” we’ll prioritize the bizarre ramblings of anyone paid by our tax dollars, no matter how bizarre or destructive the content of their remarks.

It will be difficult, at first, fighting the urge to distinguish between propaganda, science, documented reality, cultish beliefs, and anything else that comes flying our way, but I’m sure I’ll get used to it along with everything else. Besides, I’m trying not to take sides.

Deadpool Conspiracy Board

 

Just Teach The Curriculum (Leave That Other Stuff At Home)

TouchyFeely1There’s a cliché in education about teaching the child, not merely the subject. The more annoying version is that students don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care. I’m not in love with either platitude, but like most things with unfortunate sticking power, they’re not entirely wrong.

Why don’t teachers and schools just focus on teaching kids the curriculum, and leave the social and personal stuff at home, where it belongs? Why do districts spend so much money on non-classroom positions, then complain they need more teachers? 

They may be phrased as questions, but they’re used as accusations. Those teachers have an agenda! They’re hemp-addled hippies, promoting New Age hokum and gender fluidity instead of teaching fractals as well as they do in Singapore.

There seems to be a deep suspicion that the only reason any of us work in the conditions we do for the pittance we earn is that we’re trying to overthrow ‘real’ America and imprison its children in an neo-Woodstock free-love tie-dye-ridden utopian wasteland. 

#ThanksObama.

So I’m going to try something a bit outside my genre – a reasonable, balanced explanation of something. (I know, I know – but we have to stretch ourselves in order to grow, right? Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t – like hick-hop, or dating a vegan.)

Liberal Teachers

I’d like to make a case for why in many situations effective teaching has to mingle with social work, progressive politics, or otherwise color outside the lines. 

We’ll even set aside for a moment the question of exactly what we should be teaching and why we should be teaching it to begin with. Is it about getting into college? A meaningful career? Good citizenship? Personal enrichment? Economic gain? Compliant law-abiding members of society? Better-informed voters? Less annoying co-workers? 

Edu-Juggling

Should we be making sure they know how to not get pregnant? How to balance a checkbook? How to drive? How to work in groups? Take personal responsibility? Speak effectively in public? Read for pleasure? Read for knowledge? Write intellectually, creatively, or poetically? 

It doesn’t really matter how long you make the list, someone will point out something you’ve left off that’s absolutely essential – and they’ll probably be right.  

But let’s take the grandiose stuff off the table for a moment, and assume our primary goal is something tangible and pragmatic – content knowledge as measured by some sort of test. Surely whatever else we’re trying to accomplish, a little book learnin’ is in the mix?

So here’s Ms. Endocrine in Biology 101, teaching her little heart out. She’s a decent teacher, uses various strategies effectively, and knows her subject matter well. Her mid-town school has a wide variety of students and issues, but they rarely make the news for anything beyond the occasional sporting event or spelling bee. Some of her co-workers complain that each year’s students are less motivated and more distracted than the year before, but they’re probably just old and grumpy. 

Classroom of TeensHer 1st Period class is Biology 101 and has 34 students (this is obviously pre-budget cuts). Just under half are pretty much getting it and will hopefully do fine on the Big Test. Their actual enthusiasm for truly understanding science varies widely, but whatever. 

Let’s focus on the rest.

Some of them do fine most days, but are easily distracted and sometimes tune out at critical times. Whether or not they pass their E.O.I.s will largely depend on the kind of week they’ve had, or what time of day they take them, or what they had for breakfast that morning. 

Maybe it’s not the school’s job to feed them, or talk them through whatever drama is currently impacting their worlds. It’s not like they’re a disruption. But if we care whether or not they learn the state-mandated material, or whether they’ll pass the test, we might want to try anyway. If their academic progress is our responsibility, then their other issues are at least partly our problem

A couple of her girls miss part or all of her class at least twice a week for unconvincing reasons. Ms. Endocrine does her best to help them catch up each time, but they won’t come in during lunch or after school. She’s pretty sure there are real issues behind some of the absences, but other times they’re just cutting class and hiding out in the girls’ bathroom, so… that’s annoying.   

Smoking KidsMs. Endocrine could put more time and energy into figuring out what’s behind all of this, but she has 147 other students, many of whom DO show up and need regular attention. If it’s left on her, she’ll have to either ignore the absences or issue standardized consequences – detention. Suspension. ‘F’. 

None of which improve the odds of any of them passing that E.O.I.  None of which help the chances they’ll learn the important stuff mandated by the state. If their academic progress is our responsibility, then their other issues are at least partly our problem

Sometimes one her boys will demonstrate an aversion to authority, especially from women. Like many young people, they’re struggling to define themselves as part of and in opposition to what they see in the world around them. Maybe they’re getting mixed messages based on their race, or their faith, or their cultural background. Maybe they’re just teenage boys being pains in the buttocks. 

There are so many factors… among students, at least. Teachers are still predominantly moderate white Protestants from boring middle class backgrounds who learn best through orthodox means. 

But… Biology is Biology, right? Just… just do the work! Follow the rules!

Clones Clones ClonesExcept the research says dozens of other factors impact how or even if kids learn. The science says it matters how we adjust to actual, real students in front of us, whether we wish it were necessary or not. Ms. Endocrine COULD just teach the material. If they refuse to learn for whatever reason, she could give logical consequences – detention. Suspension. ‘F’. 

None of which improve the odds any of these kids will pass that E.O.I.  None of which help the chances they’ll learn important Biology stuff as mandated by the state. If their academic progress is our responsibility, then their other issues are at least partly our problem

One girl who did great first semester has been slipping. She confides to Ms. Endocrine that her parents want to send her to a special counselor to teach her not to be gay. Last week a young man told her he’d been dealing with harassment from other students (and at least one other teacher) over which bathroom he should use. It’s not enough to overtly qualify as ‘bullying,’ but…

Ms. Endocrine has little frame of reference for this sort of thing, and no idea if she even buys into some of these… ‘sexual identity’ issues. But it’s clear her kids are struggling with them, and that means they’re not really focused on redox reactions or photosynthesis.  

She didn’t sign up to talk anyone through sexual identity or anything else related to charting the path of one’s nethers, but simply nodding and handing them a tissues won’t move them forward either. If their academic progress is her responsibility, then their other issues are at least partly her problem.

Teaching ExperienceOne girl’s mom is sick – really sick. Two kids have undiagnosed ADD or OCD or some sort of acronym making things difficult all ‘round. Judy needs glasses, but keeps not getting them. A few are probably under the influence of something illegal, far too many are scarred by some form of sexual abuse in their recent past, and it’s pretty obvious to everyone that Gary has SERIOUS anger issues he doesn’t know how to control. 

Ms. Endocrine can’t fix their worlds for them, nor is that her job. She can barely keep track of who’s dealing with what. She can only pass along the consequences – detention. Suspension. ‘F’. 

None of which improve the results of that E.O.I.  None of which helps any of them learn anything mandated by the state or critical to becoming a well-rounded person. If their academic progress is our responsibility, then their other issues are at least partly our problem

Some of us work in very socio-economically difficult situations – kids arrive hungry, exhausted, angry, broken, sick, abused, or otherwise not ready to fully immerse themselves in the wonders of the future subjunctive or the Green Corn Rebellion. Other circumstances are far less dramatic, and our biggest challenge is that many decent kids from relatively normal families simply do not care about school or prokaryotes or what their GPA might look like in three years if they don’t “get serious.”

Troubled TeenSo we hire extra counselors, partnering with outside organizations when we can and eating the cost ourselves when we can’t. We create separate classrooms or activities and find specialized staff to mitigate the outside realities we can’t directly control. 

We try to find people and create programs to remove the most disruptive from the general population without sending them home to be someone else’s problem or no one’s problem, knowing there will be long-term consequences for all of us if they continue on their current path. 

We create positions which probably seem like we’re trying to parent kids who are no biological relation to us, and maybe to some extent we are – however inadequately. Yes, someone else SHOULD be doing that. Far too often, they DON’T. 

Forget whose problem it SHOULD be – if their academic progress is our responsibility, then their other issues are at least partly our problem.

It’s not about the feely touchy cares. Well, I mean – it IS, for many of the adults involved, but it doesn’t change much when it’s not.

What Is Jail, Mommy?It’s about trying to teach kids Biology, and English, and Math – things we can’t do without some regard for who we’re trying to teach and what they’ve brought with them that might get in the way. If it were as simple as just delivering content, we could pack them in the gym and show a video lecture each day. Even better, just send a DVD home with them – see you when it’s time to assess.

We teach the kids we have, not the fictional kids you think we have or think you went to school with back in the day. And if their academic progress is our responsibility, then their other issues are at least partly our problem.

That means staff to counsel. That means staff to advocate. That means staff and resources to try different learning environments or alternate disciplinary procedures within the existing system, somehow. That means feeding kids we shouldn’t have to feed, and approving of kids you wouldn’t approve of.

If for no other reason than hoping they’ll eventually pass Biology.

Kat

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An Early Xmas Venti

Starbucks CupYou read somewhere online that Christians are mad about coffee cups. You already despise a certain breed of religious person, and this seems to fit that profile. You and a hundred others you follow rant about those nuts and their damn cup obsession, eventually blaming them for not doing more for the homeless, for trying to run your life and ruin your relationships, and for that one pastor who molested that boy.

3 days later you realize that at no point have you actually seen or heard anyone mad at a cup (unless you went to the trouble to track it down as part of your outrage over what the hell is wrong with those people). You decide it doesn’t matter because screw them, you’re an enlightened scientific type who refuses to believe crazy things without evidence.

Unless it’s a massive uprising over a coffee cup. That you accept on faith, because… Christians.

Old-Fashioned Xmas

The most popular idealized version of ‘Christmas’ utilized by seasonal TV shows and movies, and aspired to by families who’d like very much to consider themselves ‘traditional’, was birthed in the early 19th century through the writing of Washington Irving and Charles Dickens

Christmas trees, colorfully wrapped presents, family festivities and such, weren’t without precedent, but neither were they what normally came to mind every time it snowed in prior centuries. And those songs which seem so timeless now – perhaps even a bit quaint? Few existed before the 1800s. Many of the most popular are less than 100 years old. 

In other words, travesties like “Run, Run Rudolph” or those Jingle Bells Dogs have just as much historical credence as “Angels We Have Heard on High.” 

I know, right?

To further carve the ‘X’ out of ‘X-mas’, non-traditionalists are quick to remind us of the pagan roots of many yuletide traditions – throwing around terms like ‘winter solstice’ to explain why we shouldn’t care whether or not Target uses a glowing plastic baby Jesus in their displays. 

Olive, The Other ReindeerBut knowing the origins of something doesn’t automatically reshape our emotional expectations and ideals. We are not a people known for clinging to our own history, let alone that of the grander human story. Trivia from 2,000 years ago isn’t likely to compel us to give up our caroling, forsake our eggnog, or burn our DVDs of Scrooged, Elf, or the Die Hard Trilogy

Our experiences and holiday yearnings aren’t about objective history or Druidic roots. They’re about hopes and feelings and stretching ourselves higher than we usually reach. They’re about redemption and clinging passionately to a faith which seems less and less generally understood with each passing year. 

And yes, for many, they’re about the Baby Jesus and God becoming man to redeem us from our sins. Go ahead, godless and truculent – laugh it up. Your day is com-

Er… I mean, we just wish you could see the true joy of the Reason for the Season! Or something.

I’m not looking to defend an ‘Old Fashioned Christmas’ or to lament the cesspool of humanity that is Black Friday. Spend your holiday with family and feasting, in prayer and meditation, or naked on the couch Netflix-binging – it’s your call. This is ‘Merica!

Xmas Monkey GirlBut I’d respectfully suggest that the aches and fears some have over the ongoing de-Christing of the season may not be proof they are fascists, or oppressors, or Fox News morning show hosts (except the ones who are). It may simply be that they feel like something special is being taken away from them for reasons they don’t entirely understand. 

Imagine that every winter, your homeowners association wants to make sure its members are prepared for the extended cold. Based on calculations you’ve never thought to question, a rep shows up at your door most years with a hot pizza, a pamphlet on staying warm, and around $400 in cash for groceries, electric bills, or unexpected expenses during the freeze. 

One season they change the algorithm – something about family size, income, and who knows what else. That year your rep brings you a frozen pizza, a pamphlet, and $300 to get you through. It’s still appreciated, and it’s not like you rely on it to survive.

The next winter it’s $250. The following year they simply email you a PDF of the pamphlet. Soon there’s no pizza at all, just coupons for Papa Murphy’s. The total resources are still being allocated, but they seem to be going to people who haven’t lived in the neighborhood all that long – people who don’t always follow the unwritten rules of the community. 

You’re still receiving more than you’ve paid in, and more than most neighborhoods do for their people. But as the rep hands you that $200 and the coupons, you feel violated. Taken advantage of. Not because you’re going without; because you’d grown so accustomed to having so much more. 

Now imagine that a small, but angry and vocal, vanload of outsiders show up chanting and ranting about those nasty, hateful people trying to take everything you own and ruin the wonderful block party mentality which prompted the assistance to begin with.

It’s easy to see the absurdity from a distance. Even easier to succumb to fear and frustratiDo You Hear What I Hearon when you’re cold and expected pizza. 

The solution, at least in the allegory, is to find and get to know those new neighbors. Learn their stories. Chances are, given the opportunity, you’d have shared with them anyway. You’re not a bad person – you just… didn’t see it coming. 

And it’s easy to confuse what you’re not being given with what you have and don’t wish to sacrifice. 

‘Less’ looks and feels a whole lot like ‘loss,’ after all.

As to those of you rejoicing every time another Baby Jesus is kicked off the courthouse lawn, keep in mind that feeling first and rationalizing later is hardly exclusive to people of faith. It’s human nature – even for you I-heard-it-from-Neil-deGrasse-Tyson types.  

Linus XmasYou don’t have to accept others’ perceptions, but your blood pressure might go down a bit if you assumed the less-than-worst of those expressing frustration. Sure, it would be nice if reason and research won the day more often, but how many of us choose a spouse, an outfit, or even a restaurant only after a day in the library and a pro/con spreadsheet? We’re simply not that detached from our own perceptions and experiences. 

I’m not sure we’d want to be.

So Eunice wishes people still said ‘Merry Christmas’, and Bob forwards that urban legend about candy canes representing Jesus and his cleansing blood. None of them took part in the Crusades. Very few of them ever sent Falwell money. Most of them have never yelled ugly things at anyone different than themselves. 

And virtually none of them – almost zero – ever gave the tiniest thought to the design on Starbucks coffee cups. 

Happy Holidays soon. And “Merry Christmas” starting in a few weeks as well – but only if it really bugs you. 

 

Volume and Power (A Borrowed Post)

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Almost a year ago, Peter Greene of Curmudgucation wrote a piece (well, several actually – but I’m zeroing in on one in particular) about the kerfuffle then occurring in Newark, NJ. A number of students and adult supporters had begun showing up various places where Cami Anderson – their District Superintendent at the time – was speaking, and demanding their concerns be heard. 

Greene of course effectively tackled the specifics of the issue, but his analysis included some broader thoughts which resonated with me rather strongly:

{Rick Hess of the AEI} is upset that they {the protestors} aren’t called out more for being so vicious, but he is especially bothered by their hypocrisy. How can they demand to be heard while stifling the speech of others? And not even get ripped for it in the press?

Rick Hess is a smart guy. I often refer to him as one of my favorite writers that I usually disagree with. But I think he’s missed a point or two here.

The Hypocrisy Defense.

This is always a lousy defense, no matter which side is using it. The situation is usually something like this – I punch you in the face, and you holler, “Hey, man! It’s totally wrong to punch someone in the face!” But I keep punching. When you finally punch me back, I call “Hypocrite.” It has two benefits. One is that it keeps the conversation away from discussing whether or not I’m punching you in the face and whether or not that’s bad behavior. The other is that you can only win the hypocrisy argument by letting me punch you in the face without ever hitting back.

“Hey, you’re being hypocritical” is often a rough translation of “No fair! You promised you weren’t going to fight back!”

I really enjoyed that part. It was the next bit, though, which I’ve paraphrased repeatedly in the year since – with students as well as adults:

Voice and Volume

Now, I think it’s probably true that the Newark folks may have been a bit unruly…

But instead of looking at this kind of hollering as a moral failing or a breach of etiquette (one simply doesn’t holler at a think tank luncheon), let’s look at it for what it really is– the demonstration of a simple principle. I learned it years ago running committees, and confirmed it in many situations since then. It’s a simple two-part principle of voice and volume.

1) People want to be heard.

2) If they do not believe they are being heard when they speak, they will keep raising their volume until they believe they are being heard.

I can’t begin to count the number of difficult situations that I’ve seen defused by one side actually stopping and listening to the other. I can’t begin to count the number of difficult situations I’ve seen made worse by one side trying to deal with dissent by silencing it.

It’s Basic Leadership 101. You cannot get rid of disagreement by silencing its voice. I don’t mean you shouldn’t, as in a moral imperative (though I believe it is one) – I mean you can’t, as in it just doesn’t work. People want to be heard. If they can’t be heard when they speak, they will keep raising their volume, even to the point of rude and untoward behavior at proper thinky tank luncheons.

He ties this in to Anderson and the specifics of the situation, then returns to broader principles:

Volume and Power 

I want to make one other observation about this raised volume thing. It’s almost always a class and/or power thing.

When people with money and power feel they aren’t being heard, they also raise the volume. But because they have money and power, they can raise the volume by spending $12 million to set up slick websites, or establishing “advocacy groups” to push their agenda out through their connections, or having polite luncheon dates. If Bill Gates thinks people aren’t really hearing what he has to say about education, he gets out his checkbook or makes some phone calls. If Anderson and Hess feel that they aren’t going to be heard, they retire to the studio in another room to record a professional-looking video to distribute through their internet channels; meanwhile, the folks they left behind are stuck recording their chants on cell-phone videos on the hope someone might pick them up on YouTube.

Ordinary folks like the citizens of Newark don’t have the rich and powerful options. They can’t drop a few million dollars on an ad campaign or make some quick calls to highly-placed people of power and influence. When people without money, power or status want to raise the volume to be heard, they don’t have any options except literally raising the volume and getting loud and unruly and even obnoxious. And then we can cue the complaints about their tone and rudeness and general misbehavior. Why they can’t just be quiet and polite and unheard? Goodness!

The fact is, civil discourse is great– if you have money and power and connections to back it up… “Let’s all calm down and try to speak nicely,” are the words of the people with power. “Listen to me RIGHT NOW DAMMIT,” are the words of the powerless, unheard, and frustrated. 

There is a solution

I learned this ages ago. If you don’t want people to scream at you, do not try to overpower them, shout them down, or force them to shut up.

Listen to them.

The formula is not, “If he calms down, I will listen to him.” Or, as I used to tell my children, the only person you can control is yourself. So make yourself do the listening. Then the calm will come.

Am I saying that this dynamic resolves all individuals of responsibility for how they conduct themselves? No, it does not. In a perfect world, people should be polite and respectful most of the time. But in the immortal words of the philosopher Dr. Phil, you teach others how to treat you. And if you teach people that approaching you quietly and respectfully will get them ignored, you can’t be surprised that they learn the lesson that being quiet and respectful and civil is a waste of their time. When it comes to these interactions, you can teach them whatever lesson you wish.

Teachers know this, by the way. We learn it – easy ways or hard – every day dealing with teenagers who don’t want to be where they are at the moment, doing what’s asked of them at that juncture. We learn that when we try to stifle their frustrations, they tend to get louder. 

We cannot, as a practical matter, give them full vent against ‘the man’ all day, every day – but a little listening and validation goes a long way calming the more blatant demonstrations of discontent. 

Sometimes when you Really Listen, you discover that you really do need to really change your plan. At the very least, it may require you to explain yourself more clearly than you have. 

You can have civil discourse and reasoned debate. But you have to go first. And you have to listen. And you also have to accept, if you’re dealing with a horrific festering mess like Newark, that you are going to have to listen to huuuuuuge amounts of fairly angry stuff, because all the things that you’ve been refusing to listen to all this time have not gone away– they’ve gone into a big escrow account and now they are going to come out with interest. You don’t get to say, “Can’t we start fresh? You forget all the times you didn’t have a say, and I’ll forget all the times I didn’t let you have one, and we’ll start even.”

I wish he’d explained this to me before my first three marriages. 

The first rule of civil discourse and debate and free speech is you have to extend the opportunity to everybody. What would have happened, I wonder, if AEI had said, “Tell you what. Let Cami speak, and then when she’s done, we will give you the podium, and the only rules is that everybody has to let everybody else have their say” instead of “Security, get these hooligans out of here.”

But in the US education landscape, we have far too many places where reformsters have decided that the route to success is to just stop listening to large chunks of the population. This is a recipe for disaster, and if wannabe leaders keep pursuing it, a few dozen cranky paid registrants at a thinky tank luncheon will be the very least of their problems.

I’ll spare you my thoughts on how this insight is best applied at this particular moment, but it reaches far beyond the realm of #edreform.

My whole goal in quoting Greene so extensively here is, in fact, to allow easy reference to what I believe to be an essential reality – however persistently it’s ignored by those clinging shakily to power. 

Listening should be more than token nodding, but certainly need not be conflated with ‘concurring’ or ‘acquiescing’. Even if your primary goal is to convince someone else of just how right you are, surely understanding them better makes that job easier, rather than more difficult?

Whether we’re debating education policy, social norms, politics, interpersonal relationships, or issues of faith… if our rules, ideas, and pathways forward are as wonderful as we think, are they really so very threatened by a little honest dissent?

Xavier & Magneto

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